When you stop complaining, and refuse to see yourself as a helpless victim, you’ll find that you are more powerful than you realized, but only if you choose to accept this reality. Working as a life coach with people who have suffered major trauma in their lives but found the courage to turn it all around, I know we all have access to far more power, authority, and influence over our lives than we initially believe. Believing you’re a victim, that you have no power to exert and no power over the direction of your life, is a toxic stance that keeps you stuck. – Another toxic behavior is persistent complaining that fuels your sense of victimization. In most cases it’s far more productive and healthy to let go of other people’s good or bad opinion of you, and to operate with your own intuition and wisdom as your guide. I am saying that so much hurt, disappointment and sadness in our lives comes from our taking things personally. I’m not suggesting we should be narcissists and ignore all feedback. Whether people think you’re amazing, or believe you’re the worst, again, is more about them. People’s reactions to you are about their perspectives, wounds and experiences. The truth is that what people say and do to you is much more about them, than you. – People are toxic to be around when they believe that everything happening around them is a direct assault on them or is in some way all about them. If you want to measure your progress, compare yourself to who you were yesterday. You are competing to be the best you can be. You are in competition with one person and one person only – yourself. Your journey is YOUR journey, NOT a competition. So stop comparing your journey with everyone else’s. There is nothing attractive or admirable about this behavior. Envy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. – Don’t let envy (or jealously) get the best of you. The twelve most common toxic behaviors we see are: Whether your toxic behavior is a common occurrence, or just a once in a blue moon phenomena, it’s critical for your long-term happiness and success that you are able to recognize when you’re behaving negatively, and consciously shift your mindset when necessary. None of us are immune to occasional toxic mood swings, but many people are more evolved, balanced and aware, and such occurrences happen only rarely in their lives. Let’s be honest – we’ve all acted in toxic, damaging ways at one time or another.
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And we’ve witnessed the devastation these behaviors cause – to relationships, to personal and professional growth, and to the general well-being of both the individual behaving negatively, and to everyone in their life. Through this experience, we’ve come across scores of toxic behaviors that push people away from each other. In our line of work, Angel and I hear from hundreds of coaching clients every month. Your behavior is a little thing that makes a big difference.